Sunday, November 25, 2012

 And We Know by Faith!

Romans 8:28-30 King James Version
28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
29 For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.
30 Moreover whom he did predestinate, them he also called: and whom he called, them

he also justified: and whom he justified, them he also glorified.

I am so Thankful to have met John and Carl on yesterday at the rest home which has been their home for over 20 years. They are brothers who share a room and are both paralyzed from the neck down. A dear friend took me to meet them. Karen had told me about these brothers when I first moved back home. It has taken us two years to finally make this meeting possible. I believe it is absolutely in "God's Own Time" that it happened this time. I would not have been ready or prepared to meet them a year ago. I know this. I am so Thankful that God does predestine His called ones even as He prepares us through the justification of his Glorified Son, Jesus Christ!

On the Saturday after Thanksgiving, 2012, I shared Romans 8: 28 with a couple of quadriplegic brothers who have the faith that God has not forgotten them, even now over 20 years later! What Faith, and what a lesson of Trust I learned from John and Carl on yesterday! That is the "Now Faith" I have needed to experience in order to make my Faith journey a more completely trusting journey. As Proverbs 3: 5 and 6 reminds us, it is a wise thing to Trust in the Lord with all your heart, acknowledge Him in all your ways and He will make your paths straight. Thank you God for allowing John and Carl to teach your preacher, this important Faith Lesson!

Sunday, March 4, 2012

My Black History Nuggets for February 2012


Black History Month NUGGETS Feb. 2012
Researched BY Cresenti Squire Williams, BA History, M.Div.
Presented by Harmony2020 Ministries
It is such a privilege  for me to be contributing to a Black History Event as a speaker. I do remember fighting , even as I am certain some of you have, many times  in my life to be accepted only as one of the many of my Father's children of various races, and ethnicities. I have always valued diversity even before it was politically correct to be considered a "tolerant Pluralist". While studying Sociology as a student at North Carolina Wesleyan College in the early 1990s, I first encountered the term "pluralism". 
I consider myself to be a pluralist and believe in the true acceptance of our differences as a very positive thing. We can be pluralist and believe in one God. After all God made Abraham the Father of MANY NATIONS! WHAT A TASK... JUST ASK YOUR PASTOR HOW HARD IT CAN BE TO PASTOR THOSE WHO HAVE DIFFERENT OPINIONS. God DOES HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR and Is so funny at times!

What is Pluralism?

Merriam Webster Dictionary defines Pluralism as the following:
a : a state of society in which members of diverse ethnic, racial, religious, or social groups maintain an autonomous participation in and development of their traditional culture or special interest within the confines of a common civilization
Dr. Diana Eck  Dr. Eck is Professor of Comparative Religion and Indian Studies and Director of the Pluralism Project at Harvard. The Pluralism Project documents the growing presence of the Muslim, Buddhist, Hindu, Sikh, Jain and Zoroastrian communities in the U.S. In 1998, Dr. Eck received the National Humanities Medal from President Clinton and the National Endowment for the Humanities for the work of the Pluralism Project.
Dr. Eck gives us 4 points to ponder as we consider the meaning of true Pluralism:
·         First, pluralism is not diversity alone, but the energetic engagement with diversity. Diversity can and has meant the creation of religious ghettoes with little traffic between or among them. Today, religious diversity is a given, but pluralism is not a given; it is an achievement. Mere diversity without real encounter and relationship will yield increasing tensions in our societies.
·         Second, pluralism is not just tolerance, but the active seeking of understanding across lines of difference. Tolerance is a necessary public virtue, but it does not require Christians and Muslims, Hindus, Jews, and ardent secularists to know anything about one another. Tolerance is too thin a foundation for a world of religious difference and proximity. It does nothing to remove our ignorance of one another, and leaves in place the stereotype, the half-truth, the fears that underlie old patterns of division and violence. In the world in which we live today, our ignorance of one another will be increasingly costly.
·         Third, pluralism is not relativism, but the encounter of commitments. The new paradigm of pluralism does not require us to leave our identities and our commitments behind, for pluralism is the encounter of commitments. It means holding our deepest differences, even our religious differences, not in isolation, but in relationship to one another.
·         Fourth, pluralism is based on dialogue. The language of pluralism is that of dialogue and encounter, give and take, criticism and self-criticism. Dialogue means both speaking and listening, and that process reveals both common understandings and real differences. Dialogue does not mean everyone at the “table” will agree with one another. Pluralism involves the commitment to being at the table -- with one’s commitments.
One of my friends and mentors who I respect a great deal, Deacon Robert Clark suggested that I select 2 or 3 great Americans of renown who I myself have learned from regarding black History. One of them is Dr. John Hope Franklin, author and Professor Emeritus, of Duke University. How many of you have heard of the book "From Slavery to Freedom"? Dr. Franklin wrote it. Almost all of the famous participants of Black History and Their contributions are referenced in this book.
John Hope Franklin (January 2, 1915 – March 25, 2009) was a United States historian and past president of Phi Beta Kappa, the Organization of American Historians, the American Historical Association, and the Southern Historical Association. Franklin is best known for his work From Slavery to Freedom, first published in 1947, and continually updated. More than three million copies have been sold. In 1995, he was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom, the nation's highest civilian honor.
Early life
Franklin was born in Rentiesville, Oklahoma to attorney, B. C. Franklin and his wife Mollie,[1] and named after John Hope.[2] He graduated from Booker T. Washington High School in Tulsa, Oklahoma. He graduated from Fisk University in 1935 and gained a doctorate in history in 1941 from Harvard University
Marriage and family
Franklin met and courted Aurelia Whittington at Fisk. They married on June 11, 1940 at her parents' home in Goldsboro, North Carolina. Their only child, John Whittington Franklin, was born August 24, 1952. Aurelia was a librarian. Their marriage lasted 59 years, until January 27, 1999, when she succumbed to a long illness.[3]
His Career
"My challenge," Franklin said, "was to weave into the fabric of American history enough of the presence of blacks so that the story of the United States could be told adequately and fairly."
In his autobiography, Franklin described a series of formative incidents where he confronted racism while seeking to volunteer his services at the beginning of the Second World War. He attempted to respond to the Navy's search for qualified clerical workers, but after he presented his extensive qualifications, the Navy recruiter told him that he was the wrong color for the position. He was similarly unsuccessful in finding a position with a War Department historical project. When he went to have a blood test as required for the draft, the doctor initially refused to allow him into his office. Afterward, Franklin took steps to avoid the draft, on the basis that the country did not respect him or have an interest in his well-being, because of his color.[3]
In the early 1950s, Franklin served on the NAACP Legal Defense Fund team led by Thurgood Marshall, which helped develop the sociological case for Brown v. Board of Education. This led to the 1954 United States Supreme Court decision ending the legal segregation of black and white children in public schools.[4]
Professor and researcher
Franklin's teaching career[5] began at Fisk University. During WWII, he taught at St. Augustine's College and North Carolina College.
From 1947 to 1956, he taught at Howard University. In 1956, Franklin was selected to chair the history department at Brooklyn College, the first person of color to head a major history department. Franklin served there until 1964, when he was recruited by the University of Chicago. He spent 1962 as a visiting professor at the University of Cambridge, holding the Professorship of American History and Institutions.
From 1964 through 1968, Franklin was a professor of history at the University of Chicago, and chair of the department from 1967 to 1970. He was named to the endowed position of John Matthews Manly Distinguished Service Professor, which he held from 1969 to 1982. He was appointed to the Fulbright Board of Foreign Scholarships, 1962–69, and was its chair from 1966 to 1969.
In 1976, the National Endowment for the Humanities selected Franklin for the Jefferson Lecture, the U.S. federal government's highest honor for achievement in the humanities.[7] Franklin's three-part lecture became the basis for his book Racial Equality in America.[8]
Franklin was appointed to the U.S. Delegation to the UNESCO General Conference, Belgrade (1980).
In 1983, Franklin was appointed the James B. Duke Professor of History at Duke University. In 1985, he took emeritus status. Franklin was also Professor of Legal History at the Duke University Law School from 1985-92.
I spoke with Dr. Franklin during my History Seminar as I was writing my Senior Dissertation while studying at NCWC. I found him to be down to earth and very approachable.  I made an A on the essay and a C for the semester.   I graduated with my BA in History with a 3.3 gpa thanks to and in part to Dr. Franklin, and my innate, God given,  speaking style. Praise the Lord!
Racial Equality in America
Racial Equality in America is the published lecture series that Franklin presented in 1976 for the Jefferson Lecture sponsored by the National Endowment for Humanities. The book divides into three lectures, given in 3 different cities, chronicling the history of race in the United States from revolutionary times to 1976. These lectures explore the differences between some of the beliefs related to race with the reality documented in various historical and government texts as well as data gathered from census, property, and literary sources. The first lecture is titled “The Dream Deferred” and discusses the period from the revolution to 1820. The second lecture is titled “The Old Order Changeth Not” and discusses the rest of the 19th century. The third lecture is titled “Equality Indivisible” and discusses the 20th century.
 Later life
In 2005, at the age of 90, Franklin published and lectured [9] on his new autobiography, Mirror to America: The Autobiography of John Hope Franklin. In 2006, he received the John W. Kluge Prize and as the recipient lectured on the successes and failures of race relations in America in Where do We Go from Here?[10]
In 2008, Franklin endorsed presidential candidate Barack Obama.[11]
Published in  2009, the 9th ed of "From Slavery to Freedom," Our own President Barack Obama graces the cover!
Franklin died at Duke University Medical Center on the morning of March 25, 2009.[12]
Honors
In 1991, Franklin's students honored him with a festschrift The Facts of Reconstruction: Essays in Honor of John Hope Franklin (edited by Eric Anderson & Alfred A. Moss, Jr. Baton Rouge: Louisiana State University Press, c1991).
Franklin served as president of the American Historical Association (1979), the American Studies Association (1967), the Southern Historical Association (1970), and the Organization of American Historians (1975). He was a member of the board of trustees at Fisk University, the Chicago Public Library, and the Chicago Symphony Orchestra Association.
Frankin was elected as a foundation member of Fisk's new chapter of Phi Beta Kappa in 1953, when Fisk became the first historically black college to have a chapter of the honor society.[13] In 1973-76, he served as President of the United Chapters of Phi Beta Kappa.[5]
Additionally, Franklin was appointed to serve on national commissions, including the National Council on the Humanities, the President's Advisory Commission on Ambassadorial Appointments, and One America: The President's Initiative on Race.
Franklin was a member of Alpha Phi Alpha fraternity. He was an early beneficiary of the fraternity's Foundation Publishers, which provides financial support and fellowship for writers addressing African-American issues.
The John Hope Franklin Research Center for African and African American History and Culture resides at the Duke University Rare Book, Manuscript, and Special Collections Library and contains his personal and professional papers.[14] The archive is one of three academic units named after Franklin at Duke. The others are the John Hope Franklin Center for Interdisciplinary and International Studies, which opened in February 2001 and the Franklin Humanities Institute. Franklin had previously rejected Duke's offer to name a center for African-American Studies after him, saying that he was a historian of America and the world, too.[4]
In 1994, the Society of American Historians (founded by Allan Nevins and other historians to encourage literary distinction in the writing of history) awarded Franklin its Bruce Catton Prize for Lifetime Achievement.[15]
In 1995, Franklin was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom, the nation's highest civilian honor.  by then Present Bill Clinton.
In 1997, Franklin was selected to receive the Peggy V. Helmerich Distinguished Author Award, a career literary award given annually by the Tulsa Library Trust. Franklin was the first (and so far only) native Oklahoman to receive the award. During his visit to Tulsa to accept the award, Franklin made several appearances to speak about his childhood experiences with racial segregation, as well as his father's experiences as a lawyer in the aftermath of the 1921 Tulsa race riot.[16][17][18]
In 2002, scholar Molefi Kete Asante included Franklin on his list of 100 Greatest African Americans.[19]
On May 20, 2006, Franklin was awarded the honorary degree of Doctor of Humane Letters at Lafayette College's 171st Commencement Exercises.
On November 15, 2006, John Hope Franklin was announced as the third recipient of the John W. Kluge Prize for lifetime achievement in the study of humanity. He shared the prize with Yu Ying-shih.[20][21]
Partial Bibliography
  • From Slavery to Freedom: A History of African Americans, 1st ed. New York: A.A. Knopf, 1947. Last update with Alfred Moss, 8th ed. McGraw-Hill Education, 2000, ISBN 0-07-112058-0
  • The Negro in Twentieth Century America: A Reader on the Struggle for Civil Rights, by John Hope Franklin & Isidore Starr. New York: Vintage Books, 1967
  • Black Leaders of the Twentieth Century, edited by John Hope Franklin and August Meier. Urbana: University of Illinois Press, c1982.
  • The Color Line: Legacy for the Twenty-first Century, John Hope Franklin. Columbia: University of Missouri Press, c1993
  • My Life and an Era: the Autobiography of Buck Colbert Franklin, edited by John Hope Franklin and John Whittington Franklin. Baton Rouge: Louisiana State University Press, c1997, 2000
  • Mirror to America. The Autobiography of John Hope Franklin. Farrar, Straus & Giroux, 2005, ISBN 0-374-29944-7






Dr. Maya Angelou

Global Renaissance Woman


Dr. Maya Angelou is one of the most renowned and influential voices of our time. Hailed as a global renaissance woman, Dr. Angelou is a celebrated poet, memoirist, novelist, educator, dramatist, producer, actress, historian, filmmaker, and civil rights activist.
Born on April 4th, 1928, in St. Louis, Missouri, Dr. Angelou was raised in St. Louis and Stamps, Arkansas. In Stamps, Dr. Angelou experienced the brutality of racial discrimination, but she also absorbed the unshakable faith and values of traditional African-American family, community, and culture.
As a teenager, Dr. Angelou’s love for the arts won her a scholarship to study dance and drama at San Francisco’s Labor School. At 14, she dropped out to become San Francisco’s first African-American female cable car conductor. She later finished high school, giving birth to her son, Guy, a few weeks after graduation. As a young single mother, she supported her son by working as a waitress and cook, however her passion for music, dance, performance, and poetry would soon take center stage.
In 1954 and 1955, Dr. Angelou toured Europe with a production of the opera Porgy and Bess. She studied modern dance with Martha Graham, danced with Alvin Ailey on television variety shows and, in 1957, recorded her first album, Calypso Lady. In 1958, she moved to New York, where she joined the Harlem Writers Guild, acted in the historic Off-Broadway production of Jean Genet's The Blacks and wrote and performed Cabaret for Freedom.
In 1960, Dr. Angelou moved to Cairo, Egypt where she served as editor of the English language weekly The Arab Observer. The next year, she moved to Ghana where she taught at the University of Ghana's School of Music and Drama, worked as feature editor for The African Review and wrote for The Ghanaian Times.
During her years abroad, Dr. Angelou read and studied voraciously, mastering French, Spanish, Italian, Arabic and the West African language Fanti. While in Ghana, she met with Malcolm X and, in 1964, returned to America to help him build his new Organization of African American Unity.
Shortly after her arrival in the United States, Malcolm X was assassinated, and the organization dissolved. Soon after X's assassination, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. asked Dr. Angelou to serve as Northern Coordinator for the Southern Christian Leadership Conference. King's assassination, falling on her birthday in 1968, left her devastated.
With the guidance of her friend, the novelist James Baldwin, she began work on the book that would become I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings. Published in 1970, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings was published to international acclaim and enormous popular success. The list of her published verse, non-fiction, and fiction now includes more than 30 bestselling titles.
A trailblazer in film and television, Dr. Angelou wrote the screenplay and composed the score for the 1972 film Georgia, Georgia. Her script, the first by an African American woman ever to be filmed, was nominated for a Pulitzer Prize.
She continues to appear on television and in films including the landmark television adaptation of Alex Haley's Roots (1977) and John Singleton's Poetic Justice (1993). In 1996, she directed her first feature film, Down in the Delta. In 2008, she composed poetry for and narrated the award-winning documentary The Black Candle, directed by M.K. Asante.
Dr. Angelou has served on two presidential committees, was awarded the Presidential Medal of Arts in 2000, the Lincoln Medal in 2008, and has received 3 Grammy Awards. President Clinton requested that she compose a poem to read at his inauguration in 1993. Dr. Angelou's reading of her poem "On the Pulse of the Morning" was broadcast live around the world.
In 2011, she was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom the highest civilian honour in the U.S.
Dr. Angelou has received over 30 honorary degrees and is Reynolds Professor of American Studies at Wake Forest University.
Dr. Angelou’s words and actions continue to stir our souls, energize our bodies, liberate our minds, and heal our hearts.

Dr. Maya Angelou
THE INAUGURATION; Maya Angelou: 'On the Pulse of Morning'
Published: January 21, 1993
A Rock, A River, A Tree Hosts to species long since departed, Marked the mastodon, The dinosaur, who left dried tokens Of their sojourn here On our planet floor, Any broad alarm of their hastening doom Is lost in the gloom of dust and ages. But today, the Rock cries out to us, clearly, forcefully, Come, you may stand upon my Back and face your distant destiny, But seek no haven in my shadow. I will give you no hiding place down here. You, created only a little lower than The angels, have crouched too long in The bruising darkness Have lain too long Face down in ignorance. Your mouths spilling words Armed for slaughter. The Rock cries out to us today, you may stand upon me, But do not hide your face. Across the wall of the world, A River sings a beautiful song, Come, rest here by my side. Each of you, a bordered country, Delicate and strangely made proud, Yet thrusting perpetually under siege. Your armed struggles for profit Have left collars of waste upon My shore, currents of debris upon my breast. Yet today I call you to my riverside, If you will study war no more. Come, Clad in peace, and I will sing the songs The Creator gave to me when I and the Tree and the rock were one. Before cynicism was a bloody sear across your Brow and when you yet knew you still Knew nothing. The River sang and sings on. There is a true yearning to respond to The singing River and the wise Rock. So say the Asian, the Hispanic, the Jew The African, the Native American, the Sioux, The Catholic, the Muslim, the French, the Greek The Irish, the Rabbi, the Priest, the Sheikh, The Gay, the Straight, the Preacher, The Privileged, the Homeless, the Teacher. They hear. They all hear The speaking of the Tree. Today, the first and last of every Tree Speaks to humankind. Come to me, here beside the River. Plant yourself beside me, here beside the River. Each of you, descendant of some passed On traveler, has been paid for. You, who gave me my first name, you, Pawnee, Apache, Seneca, you Cherokee Nation, who rested with me, then Forced on bloody feet, Left me to the employment of Other seekers -- desperate for gain, Starving for gold. You, the Turk, the Swede, the German, the Eskimo, the Scot, You the Ashanti, the Yoruba, the Kru, bought, Sold, stolen, arriving on a nightmare Praying for a dream. Here, root yourselves beside me. I am that Tree planted by the River, Which will not be moved. I, the Rock, I, the River, I, the Tree I am yours -- your passages have been paid. Lift up your faces, you have a piercing need For this bright morning dawning for you. History, despite its wrenching pain, Cannot be unlived, but if faced With courage, need not be lived again. Lift up your eyes upon The day breaking for you. Give birth again To the dream. Women, children, men, Take it into the palms of your hands, Mold it into the shape of your most Private need. Sculpt it into The image of your most public self. Lift up your hearts Each new hour holds new chances For new beginnings. Do not be wedded forever To fear, yoked eternally To brutishness. The horizon leans forward, Offering you space to place new steps of change. Here, on the pulse of this fine day You may have the courage To look up and out and upon me, the Rock, the River, the Tree, your country. No less to Midas than the mendicant. No less to you now than the mastodon then. Here, on the pulse of this new day You may have the grace to look up and out And into your sister's eyes, into Your brother's face, your country And say simply Very simply With hope Good morning.
A Rock, A River, A Tree
2nd Samuel 22: 2-3 The God of my rock; in him will I atrust: he is my bshield, and the horn of my salvation, my high ctower, and my drefuge, my saviour; thou savest me from violence.
RIVER AND TREE:  "Down the middle of the great street of the city. On each side of the river stood the tree of life, bearing twelve crops of fruit, yielding its fruit every month. And the leaves of the tree are for the healing of the nations." Revelation 22:2 NIV
mendicant.: 1 : one who lives by begging
2
: a member of a religious order originally owning neither personal nor community property and living mostly on charitable donations : FRIAR
mastodon : Any of several extinct elephant species (genus Mastodon) that lived worldwide 23.7 million – 10,000 years ago or later in North America, where they were contemporaneous with historic American Indian groups. Well-preserved remains are quite common. Mastodons ate leaves and had small grinding teeth and long, parallel, upward-curving upper tusks;



Saturday, March 3, 2012

Angels Watching Over "Little Monsters"

Angels Watching Over "Little Monsters"!

by Cresenti Squire Williams on Saturday, March 3, 2012 at 7:19pm ·
Wow! my grand twins are two months old! I am so proud of their progress so far! It is also the first week that Grammie has been with them as their care giver after Mommie returns to work. I have to make a huge confession! I now understand the nicknames my son has given them. Jayden's is "Monster" and Lailie's is "Monster Jr." Mom and Dad even went shopping and returned with a little outfit that says "Mommie's little Monster" across the front! Jayden was given the onesie and Lailie was given the bib!  Even as I laughed, I said to them " Stop calling my beautiful little angels 'monsters'"! They are very good natured babies who only fret or fuss when they are uncomfortable in some way! Yeah, right! My first confession to my daughter in law last week after my second day of Grammie Sitting was, "I understand now why your babies have the nicknames Monster and Monster Jr."


Oh yes, the first full day we were together was just fantastic! Lailie played and slept after having her formula and went to sleep on her own just fine. Of course she had her comforter, the pacifier, to make the transition from play to sleep happen peacefully. Jayden, on the other hand, wants to be cuddled until he falls soundly asleep as did his daddy when he was an infant. Forget the pacifier, just rock me!  I am still so full of joy as I help with the twins. I look at them and thank God for the precious love we have for each other. It is so comforting to know that the example of complete trust they show in their parents and grandparents is the same trust that we grown ups should have in The Almighty God!  Jayden and Lailie's parents love watching their first born twins while they are learning to be great parents. I am happy to say that they are teaching their parents well since the babies know instinctively what to ask for without actually speaking words. So now we, the caregivers, have to "discover" what they are saying based on their actions. After about 3-4 hours or so they are ready to be changed, fed, cuddled and swaddled to go off into their dream world and get much needed sleep in order to maximize their growth and development process. Well after learning this initially critical phase, the lesson plan changed again!


Now Jayden has started to wake up as soon as his little head touches the bed and wants to snuggle more.  Gas bubbles are rolling in his  tummy even though I know I had just spent 30 minutes burping, and patting him. I still can't seem to figure what is going on this time. Well I stood up and walked through the house patting his back some more and noticed that "gravity" seemed to get out the air bubbles more readily. He quickly quieted down! Jayden turned his head from side to side and scooted into various positions in my arms and chest crevices as I held him. He has learned to seek to find his own comfort zone! After all, I am  two months old now and the lesson planned has just changed! So says Mommy's sweet "little Monster"! By the way, Thanks for the memo regarding the changed lesson plan!  And then I learn that Miss Lailie, aka, "Monster Jr", is no longer content to be wrapped "Burrito style" in her security blanket, so she can go to sleep on her own, while her brother is rocked to sleep! She seems to be thinking, "who is this other little person anyway?" Nor is she content any longer to sit in the corner of the chair while he gets all of the cuddling because he can not put himself to sleep. After all, I am the princess, and I am two months old!  I want to see people, watch TV, and just stay awake for a little while. "I am woman, Here Me Roar!" So says daddy's "little Monster Jr"!


So as the lesson plan changed, (again, I failed to get the memo), on day two of Grammie Sitting, I thought I would need to call on the Army, Navy, Air force, Marines, the National Guard, the Coast Guard and the Red Cross! I had two babies screaming for attention at the same time for the same thing!  We want diaper changes and Formula and we want them now! Lailie will have her pacifier for a few minutes while her bottle is warming and her brother is feeding, but only for a while. If I wait too long, her delicate patience wears off and her little infant baby girl voice takes on the panicky sound of a siren chasing traffic lights! And during all of this, her calm little brother, Jayden is still taking his sweet little time finishing his bottle. Oh well, now I place him down and pray that he has had enough formula to hold him for the 10-15 minutes his sister needs to take her bottle.  She whimpers a little when I pick her up as if to say, "Grammie what took you so long?", but starts to suck vigorously as she consumes her formula with loud clicks of pleasure! Then the next phase is to sit Lailie down for another few minutes so I can now finish feeding her brother, who desires cuddling after he is done with his bottle He goes back to sleep in my lap after I wrap Lailie in her blanket "Swaddle style". She now sucks her pacifier until she falls asleep! Finally, is there a moment for Grammie to check her email, her crops on Facebook, make a phone call to a friend?  OK, take 30 Grammie and do not take took long!

We did notice that at around six to eight weeks old, Jayden and Lailie were indeed beginning to to sleep longer in the evening and stay up more during the day. It will be a blessing if, by the time they are three months old, they are on a schedule where they will sleep more in the evening, if not all night. This will be a welcomed time, especially for Grammie, who still helps one or both parents when they get up during the night. Okay! I know it may be wishful thinking but with God, "All things are possible for them that believe", right? Mark 9:22  I remember early on when Mom and the babies were adjusting to being alone during the day, (dad had returned to work) I got a call from Mom about 4 am saying that she had not had very much sleep during the night. She was tired and frantic. She needed to sleep. She was still in recovery from surgery and was dealing with high blood pressure and fluid retention. This was not a good medical combination to have or emotional situation to be in. I told her that I would pray that both babies would sleep for several hours so she could get some much needed rest. In the meantime I agreed to drive over and help out. When I got there later that morning she informed me the babies had indeed slept so that she could sleep as well. Mom told me that her young ones had heard her speaking to Grammie and they went to sleep in an answer to my prayer! When all else fails, Prayer Still Works!

This is when I first reflected deeply on just how involved God is in every aspect of our lives. Something so timely and so needed as sleep can play a huge role in the new parent's outlook on becoming good parents. Adequate sleep can help determine the sufficient energy level needed to positively care both emotionally and physically for newborn infants. Yes, even Grammie needs her sleep. After all I am not quite as young as I once was. I am determined to continue to Seek Balance in Ministry, Life, and Grandparent-hood. I must admit this effort is a universal challenge that  supersedes logical thinking. Knowing that it is wise to seek balance in one's life can itself become a challenge when seeking balance can become an obsessive effort. I have learned to trust God in my everyday walk and remember that He is my Source of life, strength and hope. Therefore I must entrust the One Who can do all but fail, to be The One and Only Source to provide the balance I need to care for the new Valentines in my life, Jayden and Lailie, and all of my other grandchildren.  All of them! This means also the balanced care for their parents; their jobs, and their businesses. Even in all things, as we Seek First The Kingdom of God and His Righteousness, I Trust God to give my family members, just what is needed to survive and exist in the safety of His Presence.  So I do not worry needlessly when Mom and Dad refer to my Grands as "little Monsters". They are sweet "little Angels" to me! I know that The God I serve is able to turn night into day and to make all things new. I do not worry needlessly about what Jayden and Lailie or any of my Grand kids will grow up to be! The world is there for the taking as long as they do so in The Name that is above all names. I marvel when I read the comforting Word of God in Psalm 91:9-16 esp 11-13 where I am specifically reminded that God himself will protect my "little Monsters" because they have made Him, The LORD, their Refuge. This is the best Lesson Plan any Parent can give their children and we will do so, in Jesus' Name!  Praise The Name of The LORD!

Psalm 91:9-16
9 Because you have made the LORD your refuge, the Most High your habitation, 10 no evil shall befall you, no scourge come near your tent. 11 For he will give his angels charge of you to guard you in all your ways. 12 On their hands they will bear you up, lest you dash your foot against a stone. 13 You will tread on the lion and the adder, the young lion and the serpent you will trample under foot. 14 Because he cleaves to me in love, I will deliver him; I will protect him, because he knows my name. 15 When he calls to me, I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will rescue him and honor him. 16 With long life I will satisfy him, and show him my salvation. (Bold italics mine)

Sunday, January 22, 2012

"Seeking Balance in Ministry, Life and Grandparenthood!"

"Seeking Balance in Ministry, Life, and Grandparenthood!"

by Cresenti Squire Williams on Monday, January 16, 2012 at 8:29pm
APRIL 9, 2012 will be two years since the parents of Jayden Miguel and Lailie Nichole Williams were married by Yours Truly. I was at the hospital during the labor and delivery of my son Brandon's first children, twins who are now almost seven weeks old. Graciously I am also the Mother, Mother-in Law and Grammie to this loving family.  They are my children and an important part of my Harmony 2020 Ministry, life and grandparent hood. I am happy to be living close enough for the first time in over 12 years to be able to help care for Jayden and Lailie after their mother, Sarah returns to work. I am thrilled to be involved in this second phase of my life after working as a retail manager for a major company for the last 28 years  God is truly an Awesome God! He is giving me a wonderful opportunity to see Him in a New Light as I watch the miracle of birth and life bring more aspects of God's Own Awesomeness into focus through closely observing my newborn grandchildren.
Here is where I need to make a disclaimer as these are not my "first grandchildren." Cierra Norshea and Alease Ize Williams are my elder son Sheron's thirteen and eight year old daughters. Sheron is in the military serving in the US Navy.  As a result, he has lived in various countries and other parts of the USA. He currently resides in San Diego, CA. We live in North Carolina.  Because I was almost obsessively dedicated to my job in past years, I was not available to be with him when his daughters were born,  Cierra in Norfolk, VA and Ize in Greece.  I love them so much, however, and I'm grateful for the time that Grammie does get to spend with them. They are absolutely beautiful, brilliant and loving children and I am so happy to be their Grandmother.
My heart leaps with joy and thankfulness each time I see these new precious offspring the Lord has Blessed us to have! I am in Life's School of Instruction again, but this time my instructors are all of 9 and 10 lbs!  It is really amazing how much you can learn about life from newborn grandbabies. It seems that they are an open book on one hand, reaching out and sliently observing everything in their view. Then on the other hand,  they can be just little complicated balls of of confusion. There have been many calls from a frantic mom and dad asking what to do when they just can't begin to understand what is wrong and what to do to stop the crying!  This reminds me of my own experiences as a young mother. I was always so busy trying to Be a good mother that my 'being' a good mother took precedence over being a 'fun' mother!  The babies were safe, happy and well taught, but I missed out on the Fun they shared with my parents!
During this second 'life season', I am finally able to enjoy some of the 'fun' parenting experiences I missed with my own children more than 30 years ago.  It is my hope that I will have a positive impact in the lives of Jayden and  Lailie and that I will also learn to appreciate the FUN side of living. I want ot be so happy that being a grandparent takes on the accronym of being a "FUNPARENT"! Note some of the following life lessons I have learned from the twins:
  1. When you've eaten to satisfaction, STOP-- Great advice for those of us weight watchers!
  2. In order to be acknowledged, Make Noise! Stop crying when you've gained an audience!
  3. When you have a goal to reach, Push! Especially when you have to get rid of wasteful energy!
  4. After being fed, bathed and content, Sleep in positive energy, but no more than 3-5 hours at a time!
  5. By the ripe old age of six weeks, Recognize the importance of family time!
  6. When all else fails and crying no longer works, PRAY! Find a Fellow Prayer Partner with Experience!
Speaking of Family Time, it is interesting to see how alert the babies' schedule allows them to be when Daddy comes home in the late afternoon! Spending time all day with Mommie has been great but now its time for the four of us to play, eat and have more fun! Not to mention that Mommie needs a helping hand and Daddy could use some of our love. Where has he been all day anyway?  Did he really think we would not miss him? By the way, what is this thing called 'work'? He surely loves being here with us. Just look at how happy he looks when he lays loving eyes on his son and daughter.  What a great way for Daddy to unwind at the end of the day by just feeding us and changing diapers. We really brighten his day! Just look how happy Mommie seems to be to hand us over to him!

Even though the experience of sharing and giving love to my grandbabies is quite enjoyable, I realize that I am only a part of the "village" that it will take to help raise Jayden and Lailie. Sarah's parents Mike and Barbara Myers, are Grandma and Grandpa Myers who are there as well as Grandpa Ronnie and Grandma Williams. Uncles, Derick and Sheron, although through the use of somewhat unconventional methods; and their wives, will be in the village arena also.  As will their cousins, Kylie and Nate; Devarn, Cierra and Ize; Margaret, Lorenza and Victoria. All of the cousins are big enough to play with and administer care to Jayden and Lailie as they get older. Praise the Lord and Hallelujah! 

Being Balanced in Ministry, Life, and Grandparenthood, atleast for me, means to remember the village that God has allowed to be in place to assist in the care and nurturing of the twins. I am so thankful for family, Christian friends from the faith community, doctors and nurses, mentors and coaches, laypersons and educators;  as well as many    other positive role models in the community who will be instrumental in the health, growth, safety and learning processes for these precious little ones. And just as I welcome the love and advice of others to help in this process, it is instrumental for me to be a part of the nurturing, faithbuilding and mentoring process for the children of other parents who welcome my input and love for their young ones. The Almighty God is indeed the "greatest network provider"  of resources for happy, positive living that I know. He has given us His Son, His Only Son, to look to as The Perfect Example of the Greatest Love.  Find Balance by taking the time to pray and meditate on God and His Son Jesus. As we are admonished in Matthew 6:33, "Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all other things will be added to you." We are further advised in Proverbs 3: 5,6 to Trust in the Lord with all our hearts and lean not on our own understanding. In all our ways ACKNOWLEDGE HIM and HE shall direct our paths." (paraphrased)  Very good advice for anyone seeking to find balance for life's daily challenges. After all Jesus is The One Who made us, bought us and set the example for us. Follow His lead!






Brandon and Sarah Williams
The future Proud Parents of Jayden and Lailie

April 2009











May I have a little elbow room please?
Lailie one month old. Born Nov 29, 2011

Jayden ar one month old. Born 11/29/11
You speak first. No you first!
Mommie's big boy!
Daddy's princess!
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    • Brandon Williams great job.. and yes i am very happy to hand the kids over to dad at the end of the day!!! lol
      January 17 at 8:43am ·
    • Cresenti Squire Williams I know you are! I am proud of the way you are both parenting your young ones. I am blessed to be an observer and a participant. hang in there and you will wonder where the time has gone. Enjoy your family!
      January 17 at 11:15am ·
    • Barbara Myers Wow now that must have taken some time and a lot of thought. LOL but I think it was great and well said.
      January 18 at 6:08am ·
    • Cresenti Squire Williams Thank you. Yes it tool a while because I am a slow typist. I enjoy the babies so much! Now I have a reason to try to improve my writing skills. How are You Grandma?
      January 18 at 11:48am ·
    • Cresenti Squire Williams I need new glasses too. It took a while to write. Next week will be a very new experience for me. I am sure Jayden and Lailie will be looking for mom, dad and their other grandparents by the end of their day! Pray for us! LOL!!!
      January 18 at 11:55am ·
    • Barbara Myers
      I think those babies are very blessed in that they have a grandparent that is able to be with them while mom and dad work. I only wish I had that luxury when my children were small however I did not. I had to have a Day care, Day care is go...See More
      January 18 at 6:17pm ·
    • Cresenti Squire Williams Oh don't be envious, grandma, I will have weekends off! LOL!!! Brandon was in daycare also, but my oldest son was cared for by my mom and grandmothers before starting school. He often refers to how much he learned from them. I only hope I can be as successful with Jayden and Lailie. Thanks for the prayers...
      January 18 at 9:38pm ·
    • Sheron Williams wow! You really do have a gift. You really do need to get started on your book!
      January 18 at 9:56pm · · 2
    • Sheron Williams I see that something has sparked or rekindle.
      January 18 at 9:59pm ·
    • Cresenti Squire Williams Thank you Sheron, my love. You inspire me. I am very nervous about writing. This is a "safe" fun topic. Mom loves you!
      Thursday at 11:36am ·